Since my oldest daughter's birth in 2006, I have had an adorable daughter with very long and thick hair. A few days ago we actually found a photo of the back of her hair when she was about six or seven months old. It was at least two inches down her back (though in the form of a "tail"). I would show you, but that would require using the scanner...
Big Sis's long, thick hair made her look much older than she was for the first three years of her life. The fact that she didn't have any teeth until about 14 months likely confused some people. Eventually, the hair got in the way of using the bathroom, and we cut off about six inches around age 3 1/2. It wasn't that noticable because she was still so short, and her hair still went past the middle of her back.
For nearly six years I have found much of my daughter's identity in unworthy things.
When Big Sis was between 2 and 3, I focused much time and energy on Big Sis's lack of speech. When she was two years old, I would explain to people why she didn't talk or make sounds. I allowed it to become her identity and my own. Slowly, thankfully, circumstances have changed. She has pretty much overcome verbal apraxia, her speech disorder, though she still struggles with a few sounds (which are age appropriately difficult). Big Sis now has a large vocabulary and can converse easily with anyone who will listen. Due to all of her special help, she is actually very articulate and even converses well with adults. Speech is no longer an issue.
Big Sis also had a (life-threatening left untreated) heart condition called SVT. For the first eighteen months of her life, we checked her heart rate multiple times a day and gave her medication-including in the middle of the night.
With the verbal apraxia and SVT, it made her a special needs child and myself a special needs parent. We were special, and we needed to educate ourselves and sometimes those around us. However, it shouldn't become the most important part of our lives.
Perfect strangers often commented on Big Sis's hair (especially when it was slightly tamed and lovely) for years. Almost everyone who knew her related Big Sis to her hair. (At preschool her elementary-aged reading buddy didn't recognize her...)
Sometimes some of my own identity was found in my daughter.
A month ago, Big Sis had a drastic hair cut. She had been asking for months. It had been suggested by friends and family for years for practicality's sake. (Okay, only two or three people...) Finally, we were all ready. (It was also long enough to donate...my requirement.)
Big Sis is still a lovely girl. I look forward to the freedom of not having any part of her identity with her hair. We are trying to focus more and more on inner beauty, though I let her know that her freckles are awfully cute. (I do so because too many girls despise their freckles...) She was created in the image of God, and that is why she is truly beautiful. Lord, let me focus on that and only that.